The few days that girls find most difficult each month are like a huge hand that seals themselves in a bottomless abyss. It's better to just lie down in the abyss for a while. I came across the "2019 Chinese Debate Old Friends Tournament Second Round - If You Have Superpowers, Would You Make the Person You Love Love You Back, Would You Use It or Not" when I was bored.
My answer is to use it, why not? Free will cannot kill the feeling of love. How can I suppress my id and let him be free? Even if I know that continuing to love will result in being shattered, falling into an abyss, and having no place to bury myself, I still want to force it this time. But what I really want is just for you to love me once among millions of people. That's why there are 500 years of bowing before the Buddha and those touching and lingering love songs throughout history.
Maybe you would say that this is just the nature of love itself, yes, it is the late stage of love, beyond salvation, not seeking to be saved.
Li Xiuwen said: "I'm going to catch the train, walk the night road, live through the howling dog, and then come back to accept my fate."
Of course, I know that love cannot overcome all difficulties. I know that everyone weighs the pros and cons. I also know that pure love cannot be exchanged for equal love. Idealism will eventually be killed by realism, and love in reality will also lose to the love brain. I know that I may eventually move from the love brain to the opposite side, accepting the ugliness of love, I accept it, fully accept its cruelty. Just not now.
Just like the last sword stabbed by Wang Jingfeng, when the situation of the opposite side of the fourth debate came out, others could no longer listen to what Wang Jingfeng was saying. He knew he would lose, and he knew he couldn't change the outcome. His love could not cross mountains and seas. But he still used the last chance to do his best to make a decent exit.
Finally, here is the closing statement from both sides:
Closing statement from the opposing side (Luo Hongkun):
The opposing debater thinks that the matchmaker is unreliable and what if they arrange for me to love a scumbag? So I want to save the person I love. There is a premise here, that is, I am better than the scumbag. But the problem is, me being better than the scumbag is your confidence, where does your confidence come from? It comes from me loving her. But the scumbag also thinks the same way; the scumbag also thinks that I love her, so I have to do these things for him. Sometimes our parents also think this way, they think that I am good to my child, so I have to do these things for him. So at this time, we must leave some space for the person being loved, as long as he has the right, the room, and the opportunity to say no, then each of us has the possibility to find the right way for him.
The opposing debater said lightly today, he said that once we use this ability, oh (tactical fake voice), can the other person still leave in the future? I don't know if you said these things just for today's debate or if you have forgotten all the relationships you have had in the past. If we really love each other, even if the other person abuses me, I might not want to leave. Even if I really decide to leave, but I still love him, I will leave in pain. So, opposing debater, your superpower adds an extra chip to the other person. If you don't make progress today, he may not like someone who doesn't make progress and immediately break up with you. But if you use your superpower, he will think, "Oh no, what should I do? I don't want to be with him, but I love him so much, I don't want to leave." The problem is, in this process, you will never learn how to love someone.
So, opposing debater, today we have opened up two perspectives in our argument. First, this matter is extremely unfair to the person involved. You tell me that my fate is in my own hands, so I want to use this superpower. Well! Isn't that person's fate also in his own hands? Is it controlled by you? Your fate is in your own hands, I admit, but why is it that the fate of the person you love is also determined by you? Why is it that with a snap of your fingers, he must love you? This doesn't make sense. Today, the opposing debater is muddying the water, saying (tactical playful voice), because all love is the sinking of free will, anyway, you can't explain it clearly, so let's forget it. But the problem is, when there is clearly no free will, why is it that you are the god, you are the only true god in the whole room? You can decide who loves me and who doesn't love me, why? Why is that person the object controlled by God? The opposing debater said it very clearly, I love him, I won't treat him badly. But the problem is, let's ask ourselves, if we really love someone, would we not respect their experiences and feelings? Would we tell that person that they must love me, that they can't love me? Can we say such things? If the opposing debater thinks he can say such things, then I really think he is a scumbag. So your side doesn't have the confidence to say that I will definitely do better than the scumbag, your behavior is definitely harming the people involved.
Okay, let's talk about yourself after we finish talking about the people involved. We actually mentioned it just now, in this logic, you are actually the only true god in the whole room, you are the king of the world. In this relationship of love, love revolves around you. The opposing debater thinks, oh, this is so cool, as long as I love him and he doesn't love me, I just have to move my finger and that person will love me. You can enjoy this pleasure, but I want to remind everyone of one thing, when the world revolves around you, you become the loneliest person in the world. When everyone has to nod to you, you don't even know why they have to nod to you. When you use superpowers, at your wedding, when the other person looks into your eyes, and someone asks her, do you love this groom? She is full of joy, she loves him very much, you know, she truly loves him, but only you know that this love comes from your superpower, not from her choice. In the vast sea of people, she had the opportunity to choose you from so many people, this is recognition for you, this is recognition for me. The reason why I put in effort for him, you can say it's gratitude, you can say it's inspiration, there's no problem. But the problem is, opposing debater, you have eliminated the only true and vivid opponent in your love. When there is no such opponent in love, one thing is simple, you don't have to worry about this opponent leaving, because her leaving is the only meaning of you keeping her. When the whole world no longer has such a person, when you can make everyone you love love you just by moving your finger, you no longer know what it feels like to be loved. Because everyone treats you the same way, everyone will give to you, everyone will be good to you, but you never know what they truly love about me—is it my superpower?
Thank you, everyone.
Closing statement from the affirmative side (Wang Jingfeng):
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Falling in love and staying in love are two different things. He has rationality, he can choose to leave you, in the matter of whether to continue living with you, that is where free will comes in, he can leave you even though he still loves you.
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The opposing debater's view of love is a bit problematic. He thinks that I cherish and protect you because it was difficult for me to pursue you. Or, if you leave me, I am afraid of losing you... Opposing debater, this is not love, this is accounting. If I don't do this or that, he will leave me, and his leaving me is the only meaning of me trying to keep him. I must keep him. Opposing debater, this is not love, this is comparison.
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We only resort to myths in areas where science cannot explain.
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Love itself is a kind of deprivation. Putting aside this superpower, in real life, every person we love, without exception, hopes with all their efforts that the other person believes, believes that I am the one destined for them. Believes that I am the right person, believes that I am the person most worthy of their love. But how can this be true? There are 7 billion people in this world. So, the love we praise is just a noble lie, a lie that requires us to spend our whole lives maintaining. And the price of this lie is that I deprive the other person of the possibility of falling in love with someone else. So when the other person falls in love with me, the underlying color of love becomes indebtedness. I am indebted because I have erased the infinite possibilities the other person could have had. I am indebted because when the other person falls in love with me, they no longer see other people who may also be excellent. And it is precisely this debate topic that gives us superpowers, allowing us to realize this indebtedness. With this sense of indebtedness, we can better cherish this love, better manage this love, and avoid the harm mentioned by the opposing side.
Falling in love is nothing special, staying in love is what's special.
- How many people in their lifetime have never tasted the taste of this drug? They can only use their reason to judge, to find someone who meets all the criteria and standards to live with. This is the most tragic thing. Today, this superpower is placed in front of you, and we say, you should use it, use it with a sense of indebtedness, carefully brew this potion and give it to the person you love, and guard him carefully, guard this lie until the end of your life. You say no, I want to return this superpower to the matchmaker, let the matchmaker decide who the person I love will fall in love with. But, who will he fall in love with, whether that person will treat him well or not, whether that person will love him or not, you don't know, how can you trust an unknown person with the person you love so much?
You say you love him very rationally, very restrained. And I say, you love him so weakly, thank you.
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